How many tabs of flight prices do you have open right now, honestly?
Long distance deck · 99 cards
Long distance relationship questions
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For couples on a screen more than in a room. Silly ones for when the call runs dry, honest ones for when you need to talk about the distance.
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The whole deck in order, from light to deep. Handy if you'd rather read from a list or print it.
Light
- How many tabs of flight prices do you have open right now, honestly?
- What's the worst lag moment we've had, where one of us talked to a frozen face?
- Hold up the last thing you bought without me there to stop you: what's the story?
- What's the first thing you'd do to annoy me if we were in the same room right now?
- What's the most dramatic thing you've done when a call dropped at the worst moment?
- When we finally watch a movie in the same room again, what are you making us watch first?
- Which of my texts would you frame and hang on your wall?
- Which inside joke of ours only exists because we live apart?
- What's your most unhinged idea for a long-distance date night?
- Which online game should we be losing to each other in right now?
- Which fictional couple has it worse than us on the distance front?
- Which of my video-call camera angles do you secretly judge the most?
- Which pillow, hoodie or stuffed toy has been standing in for me lately?
- Which object within arm's reach right now best sums up our relationship?
- What song should we both press play on at the exact same second tonight?
- If we opened a tiny shop exactly halfway between us, what would we sell?
- Which of my habits have you picked up even though we don't live together?
- Who in your life is most tired of hearing about me, and what do they say?
- Pick a snack for us to eat together on our next call: what are we getting?
- If you could mail me one smell in an envelope, what would you seal inside?
- Do you keep a clock or app on my time zone, and when do you check it most?
- Who would win a staring contest over video, and what's your secret strategy?
- Which boring chore would you happily do on video with me keeping you company?
- What would a documentary crew filming our calls find most ridiculous about us?
- What's something on your street I'd love that you've never shown me on camera?
- What's the funniest thing someone has said after overhearing one of our calls?
- Which of my voice notes do you replay, and which ones do you skip to the end of?
- How would you rate my call-ending goodbyes out of ten, and what would get a ten?
- When you tell people your partner lives far away, what face do they usually make?
- What would you order for me right now if you could get food delivered to my door?
- Can you draw me from memory in thirty seconds, then tell me which part you nailed?
- Could you describe your whole day to me in three emojis, then explain the middle one?
- Which of your roommates or neighbours have I basically met through the screen by now?
- Should we cook the same recipe on a call tonight, and whose kitchen ends in disaster?
- What's the weirdest thing you've caught yourself narrating to me in your head this week?
- How many days can you go without missing me too much?
- What kind of good-morning text actually makes you smile?
- What's our most embarrassing long-distance moment so far?
Closer
- Which goodbye of ours has been the hardest, and why that one?
- Which of my things do you have with you, and when do you reach for it?
- What's the first thing you want to do the moment you spot me at arrivals?
- How can I tell on a call that you're having a rougher day than you're letting on?
- How do you feel the first night after a visit ends, and what gets you through it?
- What do you wish I asked about more on our calls?
- When I text "I'm fine", how do you actually read it?
- How do you want our next reunion to go, hour by hour?
- When has the distance made you laugh instead of hurt?
- What small routine of ours keeps you going between visits?
- Which friend has helped you most while we're apart, and how?
- What moment from a visit do you replay most when we're apart?
- How did your week really go, not the highlights reel version?
- Which messages from me do you reread when things feel far away?
- Which part of my day do you picture most when you're missing me?
- How should we handle nights when one of us is too tired to call?
- When a call ends, what do you usually do in the five minutes after?
- What could I post to you that would feel like a hug when it arrives?
- What little sign that I'm thinking of you matters most on a busy day?
- How do you count down to seeing me, and when does the countdown start?
- What show, book or skill should we take on together while we're apart?
- What helps you feel sure of us on nights when I don't reply for hours?
- On nights you miss me and don't want to say it, what do you do instead?
- Which of your family asks about me most, and what do they want to know?
- What have you started doing on your own that you now want to do with me?
- Which trip to see each other has been the best so far, and what made it?
- Which place feels most like ours, even though neither of us lives there?
- With the time difference, which hour of your day feels best for reaching me?
- What did you see this week that you wished I'd been standing next to you for?
- What kind of silence on a call feels cosy to you, and what kind feels worrying?
- Once we're in one place, what does a perfectly ordinary Sunday together look like?
- When you picture falling asleep next to me again, what detail comes to mind first?
- What have you learned about me through a screen that you might have missed in person?
- Which of our long-distance rituals would you keep even after we live in the same city?
- Which part of my world, like my friends or my neighbourhood, do you most want to walk into?
- What's your favorite way for us to say "I missed you" without actually saying it?
- Would you relocate for love?
- When do you miss me the most?
- What should we never try to solve over text?
- Can long-distance relationships really survive?
- What's something mundane you'd love to share with me more often?
- What's one thing I do from far away that means more than I think?
Deep
- What would need to be true for one of us to move, and who should it be?
- When we finally close the gap, what are you afraid might change between us?
- What keeps this worth it for you on the days it really isn't fun?
- When jealousy creeps in from far away, what do you want me to say or do?
- What have you kept to yourself so you wouldn't worry me from so far away?
- Which fear about us gets louder when we're apart?
- How should we fight when we can't hug it out afterwards?
- What does trust look like to you when you can't see my day?
- How would you want me to tell you if I ever felt us drifting?
- How will we know if the distance starts costing more than it gives?
- Should we put a date on ending the distance, or does a deadline scare you?
- What would you be giving up if you moved to me, and could you make peace with it?
- Is there something you worry I'm doing without you that you've never said out loud?
- Which part of your life there would you grieve if we built a new one somewhere else?
- What has this distance asked you to sacrifice that I've never properly thanked you for?
- What picture of our future makes this distance feel worth it?
- What's the hardest part of distance for you that people underestimate?
- What has being long-distance taught you about yourself?
- When do you feel most lonely in the distance, and what helps?