How many drafts did your first message to me go through?
Crush deck · 99 cards
Questions to ask your crush
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For the talking stage, in person or over text. Playful first, a bit braver later. Screenshot-worthy answers not guaranteed.
All 99 questions
The whole deck in order, from light to deep. Handy if you'd rather read from a list or print it.
Light
- How many drafts did your first message to me go through?
- You get one question I have to answer completely honestly. What is it?
- On a scale of one to ten, how much did you overthink your last text to me?
- What's the most embarrassing thing you've ever done to impress a crush?
- If our chat had a name, what would it be?
- Which one of us is more likely to double text?
- How fast would you notice if I changed my hair?
- What random thing reminded you of me this week?
- What's something about me you'd judge, lovingly?
- Which tiny thing I do have you definitely noticed?
- Which of my texts made you laugh out loud in public?
- Which photo of yours would you want me to see first?
- How would you get my attention across a crowded room?
- Which fictional couple do you secretly think we'd be?
- Got a best pickup line, and has it ever actually worked?
- Right now, on the spot: what nickname would you give me?
- Hypothetically, of course, what would our couple name be?
- Which emoji do you use when you're trying to play it cool?
- With one afternoon and $20, how would you try to impress me?
- Which of your friends knows about me, and what did they say?
- What song would you send me right now without explaining why?
- Who's the faster texter here, and who's pretending not to be?
- What was your first impression of me, the unfiltered version?
- What are you doing right now, described in way too much detail?
- When my name pops up, do you open it right away or make it wait?
- What's the cheesiest thing you'd happily do for someone you like?
- Voice note from me or a really long text: which one makes your day?
- If I showed up at your door right now, what snack would you offer me?
- Three words: how would you describe me to someone who's never met me?
- Be honest: did you wait before replying to my first message on purpose?
- Which text have you sent someone you liked that still makes you cringe?
- What do you do with your hands when you're nervous around someone you like?
- Picnic, arcade night, or a late-night food run with me: which one, and why?
- What outfit would you wear if you wanted to steal the show on a date with me?
- Which movie would you pick for us to watch, knowing it says something about you?
- Describe our perfect lazy afternoon together, minute by minute. Where do we start?
- Who was your first non-celebrity crush?
- If I asked you out right now, what would you say?
- What's the weirdest way you've ever been asked out?
- What's something you almost texted me earlier but didn't?
- Have you ever written anything in your notes app about me?
- Do you kiss on a first date?
- Do I ever show up in your dreams?
- Looks or brains: which matters more to you?
- How do you feel when you get a text from me?
- How would you go about making someone blush?
- Who's the movie crush you've never admitted to?
- How would you describe your personal flirting style?
- What makes flirting feel fun to you instead of corny?
- How long did it take you to decide to talk to me today?
- Do you think we'd have chemistry, or should we test it out?
- Are you more "slow-burn texts" or "let's hang soon and see"?
Closer
- If you knew I'd say yes, what would you ask me?
- Which small gesture would make you melt?
- On a bad day, how do you like to be comforted?
- When you like someone, do you say it or show it?
- Is there a question you're nervous I'll ask you?
- Who showed you what a good relationship looks like?
- What would your best friend warn me about, lovingly?
- Where do you picture us hanging out a month from now?
- Which conversation of ours made you laugh the hardest?
- What's the most romantic thing you secretly believe in?
- What do people only find out about you after a few weeks?
- Which moment between us so far would you rewind and replay?
- How do you like someone to show they're thinking about you?
- Which love song actually matches how you feel about romance?
- What do you want to know about me that you haven't asked yet?
- Which of your habits do you think I'd find the most adorable?
- When has someone made you feel really seen, and what did they do?
- What was going through your head the first time we really talked?
- What do you think we have in common that we haven't discovered yet?
- When you're falling for someone, how long before your friends notice?
- What would you want to do with me that you've never done with anyone?
- What's a green flag you've spotted in me that I might not know about?
- What made you want to keep talking to me after our first conversation?
- What's the most thoughtful thing anyone's done for you out of nowhere?
- Which quality do you look for that you'd never put on a dating profile?
- How do you act when you have a crush: bolder, quieter, or a total mess?
- Texting or talking in person: which one makes you more nervous, and why?
- Can you tell me something small about you that you usually save for later?
- How do you tell the difference between liking someone and just being bored?
- Plan our first real date for me, assuming nothing could go wrong. Where are we?
- Do you ever imagine what it would be like if we dated?
- Tell me about your first kiss. Was it as awkward as in the movies?
- If you had a spell to make anyone fall in love with you, would you use it?
- What's your ideal first-kiss scenario?
- How do you most enjoy being flirted with?
Deep
- Which wall do you put up that you wish people would climb over?
- When do you feel most lovable?
- Honestly, what do you hope this turns into?
- How do you know a feeling is real and not just a crush?
- What would make you feel safe enough to fall for someone?
- What do you need from someone that you find hard to ask for?
- What makes you pull away from someone, even when you like them?
- What have you learned about love that you wish you knew at sixteen?
- Which part of yourself do you only show once you really trust someone?
- Is there something you're nervous for me to find out, even if it's small?
- What's your biggest fear about falling in love?
- Do you have feelings for someone that nobody knows about?